Gonna try to again this week, just because I really feel like this needs to happen, but so far it just hasn't been happening. Some believe there is a reason for everything, but I've my own opinions about that. Either way, reason or no, we're gonna try again.
This Project has been taking some turns I've not expected. That's kind of how life works, right?
"Life is what happens to you while you’re busy making other plans."
Sometimes people say, "Everything happens for a reason."
Others say, "You have to look at the glass as half full."
Some say, "You need to learn to dance in the rain."
Others say, "You just need to wait for the sun to come back out."
A lot of people say a lot of things. And that's okay. Why have the human gift of verbal and written communication if you aren't going to use it? We gather, internalize and share a lot of things as we interact with our environment and those within our realm of influence. That is how we went from being scavengers, to space explorers, to internet writers, after all!
But I would like to offer a counter to these, just as a thought activity for us. I enjoy giving prompts to ideas a person might not otherwise ponder, so perhaps this is a good example.
What if the reason is, "Because it can?"
What if the glass is always full, just not full of what we want it to be - or can even see?
What if it's okay to just be in the rain? It's just rain, after all!
What if what we need to do is just make our peace with the darkness?
The thing is, sometimes there doesn't seem to be a perceivable reason for things which happen. People are born with unusual illnesses or genetic quirks or rare diseases that make life so much more complex and often challenging for all involved, than do the "normal", "healthy" babies whom most don't really consider being such a fantastic gift to the lives of those who love them! Sometimes tragedies happen that no one could predict. Sometimes one discovers that one is simply tired, or loses a part of oneself and searches for the meaning and answers one doesn't feel one has. These can create all kinds of challenges, each one valid, real, and needing something we cannot always provide for our situations, ourselves.
How on earth do we do that, when we're feeling such heavy loads that we must ponder any of this, at all? How do we find that strength and purpose, safety and direction? Where do we go to gather that light? I suppose there are many answers to that question, and we kind of need to find our own ways. There are many people in this world who are willing to open their hearts, and sometimes arms, to lend you theirs, until we can find it for ourselves. There are lessons to share, and hearts to warm us, and hope to be found in the love of this world. We may feel that there is none to be found, but keep searching, when possible.
And self-care. We have to have compassion, love and concern for our own welfare, and tend to our needs as we would for someone else we would love, in the situation. We must be our own, best friend. I've never so had to learn such a lesson, and yet it is really one of the most important lesson I have ever been faced to learn. Truly. Sometimes it's a struggle, sure, but in helping others find that ability to love and care for themselves, I have been learning it for myself. As I've shared my own journey in various ways, here or on the PB Facebook Community Page, I have been learning right alongside anyone else who has gained anything at all. Hopefully someone else has gained, and I've not been stumbling on my own. But I highly doubt that I have been.
So there you go.
Better days ahead, my friends!
If the reason is, "Because it can?" Then what? What do we do with that?
We have to create meaning in it, don't we? A purpose? Only we can do that, for ourselves.
If we cannot find the hope and fulfillment in the positive perspective we try to keep, then what?
We have to make it count for something, right? We have to find a way to make it count.
If we're in the rain, and it's cold, and hurts, and feels dreary and gray, then what?
We must either find shelter for ourselves, or yes, seek joy in the puddles, somehow.
If the darkness has us stumbling and bumbling and feeling lost and alone, then what?
We either find a way to create a light, or we find a way to navigate in the darkness.
How on earth do we do that, when we're feeling such heavy loads that we must ponder any of this, at all? How do we find that strength and purpose, safety and direction? Where do we go to gather that light? I suppose there are many answers to that question, and we kind of need to find our own ways. There are many people in this world who are willing to open their hearts, and sometimes arms, to lend you theirs, until we can find it for ourselves. There are lessons to share, and hearts to warm us, and hope to be found in the love of this world. We may feel that there is none to be found, but keep searching, when possible.
And self-care. We have to have compassion, love and concern for our own welfare, and tend to our needs as we would for someone else we would love, in the situation. We must be our own, best friend. I've never so had to learn such a lesson, and yet it is really one of the most important lesson I have ever been faced to learn. Truly. Sometimes it's a struggle, sure, but in helping others find that ability to love and care for themselves, I have been learning it for myself. As I've shared my own journey in various ways, here or on the PB Facebook Community Page, I have been learning right alongside anyone else who has gained anything at all. Hopefully someone else has gained, and I've not been stumbling on my own. But I highly doubt that I have been.
So there you go.
Better days ahead, my friends!
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